You Don’t Have To Like Being Single: 10 Ways To Survive Singleness

In Podcast by Debra Fileta

You don’t have to like being single. Yes, even you, Christian person. It’s okay to struggle with being single!

It really is. I’m giving you – reading this post – permission to go ahead and feel those feelings. And in this episode, I’m going to tell you exactly why.

On this episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast, I’m talking to a young woman who is struggling with singleness. She’s just not feeling content.

How can you survive singleness in a world that seems to revolve around marriage?

How can you keep from getting discouraged when you’re not in a relationship but want to be?

What do you do when you find yourself living in a season of waiting…and waiting…and waiting?

What do you do when it seems like the people who AREN’T doing it God’s way are being “blessed”, and you feel like you’re trying to follow God’s leading and you’re feeling like life just isn’t working out for you?

What can you do while you’re waiting? Let’s have this conversation, friends.

Being Single Doesn’t Have To Be Time To Kill

After our chat, I’m going to talk you through some of the TOP 10 ways to use this time of singleness in your life as a time of preparation, rather than just a time you’re wishing away.

Being single doesn’t have to ruin your life…in fact, it shouldn’t. So we’re going to discuss the things my married friends WISHED they would have done during their time of singleness, and I think it’s important to talk through some of this stuff.

Because it’s so easy to look at what God is NOT doing, instead of what He IS doing (CLICK TO TWEET IT!).

We’ve got to learn to adjust our perspective on being single.

You don’t have to like being single – but you do have to learn how to NOT LET SINGLENESS hold you back!! Singleness might be a struggle for you, but don’t let it be a stronghold that paralyzes you from living!

We’re talking through this delicate topic today, and I hope you’ll stick around and join us, because you’re going to love this candid conversation on today’s episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast.


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Upcoming Events:

Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! On Friday, July 28th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I am hosting a special 30’s Single’s Night Out, and on Friday, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40’s Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement.

30’s Singles Mixers: is thrilled to announce that we’re offering another single’s mixer! On August 13, 2023 from 8pm-10pm EST for ages 30-40. This event will have the feel of “speed dating” but in a group setting and in the comfort of your own home thanks to online technology and Zoom!! During the night, you’ll get to hear from and interact with each person in the group using audio and video technology. Spot’s are limited to 20 singles (10 men / 10 women) so submit your application today! You can learn more about applying to this mixer HERE.


Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy RelationshipChoosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sexand RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog,, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on FacebookInstagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!