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The Person You Never Thought You Would Date: A Singles Online Conference

In Dating, Single by Debra Fileta

There is a person you never thought you would date — but you need to.

I know this from first hand experience. Years ago…I dated someone for a very long time who wasn’t a good match for my life. We were moving toward marriage. He was a Christian…and he was nice enough…but deep down, I had an unrelenting fear and doubt that I was making a huge mistake. 

Looking back at that broken relationship, the main reason it didn’t work out is because I didn’t know who I was. And if you don’t know who you are, you have no idea what kind of person fits into your life from the kind of person who doesn’t. I never took the time to look inward…to date the person I never thought I’d have to date. 

And this person is the most important person you could ever get to know, because they will impact your love life in more ways than anyone else could.

That person is yourself.

When it comes to love and dating — you are the most important person you could ever get to know. Because you will attract someone on your level of spiritual, emotional, and psychological health.

So how healthy are you?

How much time have you taken to get to know yourself?

If you don’t know who you are – you’re not going to know the kind of person who fits into your life. Healthy dating ABSOLUTELY has to start here.


This Friday night, I’m hosting the very LAST online singles seminar of 2019, and we’re going to be diving deep into this life-changing subject — because you need to take inventory of how healthy you are if you’re serious about getting into a healthy dating relationship.

We’re going to talk through:

  • How your past influences the type of people you date.
  • Why you’re attracted to certain people more than others, and the important psychology behind that.
  • How your beliefs about your identity shapes everything you do in dating.
  • Why it’s important to know where you’re headed, and find someone who matches the direction you’re going.
  • And so much more…

It’s going to be a really fun night of learning, as well as connecting with other singles from all across the country through our live chatroom throughout the conference as well as a special time of meet and greet afterwards.

If you’re serious about wanting to do dating well, you need to attend this ONLINE 2-hour seminar. I want everyone who’s serious about this to have a chance to be there. Ticket and registration link by clicking below — we’ve got 30 spots left!! See you Friday!!!


DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog,, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on FacebookInstagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today!