The #1 Dating Deal Breaker of 2016

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What would you guess is the #1 Dating Deal Breaker?

Last week at, I took a poll called “Are These Dating Deal Breakers” asking singles to respond “yes” or “no” as to whether something was a dating deal breaker. I had some really important traits on the list, mixed in with a few qualities that some might say aren’t as important in a relationship.

We had over 20,000 responses from approximately 1,500 different singles across the country.

And the number one deal breaker reported was……..(drumroll please)………


A whopping 85% of singles said that they would definitely NOT date a smoker. It’s a major deal breaker. 

I don’t know about you, but I was actually surprised by the overwhelming response to this question, especially considering that 15% of Americans 18 and over currently smoke. Percentage wise, it was a bigger deal breaker than EVERY other item on the list.

Why do you think there was such a collective NO to smoking?

Would you consider smoking a deal breaker? Why or why not?

Do you think smoking is reflective of deeper issues, or is the smoking in and of itself the deal-breaker (the scent, cost, etc.)? 

What is it about smoking that makes it so controversial in a dating relationship? I want to hear what you all think about this. Were you as surprised as me, or is this a common deal breaker these days?

I’d love to dig a little deeper into this subject, so leave your comment below! And stay tuned to find out how the rest of the dating deal breakers panned out with our audience. 

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Debra Fileta is a Professional Counselor, speaker, and author of True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life21 Days to Jump Start Your Love Life, and 21 Days to Pray For Your Love Life – where she writes candidly about dating, relationships, and how to find true love. You may also recognize her voice from her 150+ articles at Relevant Magazine or! She’s also the creator of this True Love Dates Blog!  Connect with her on Facebook or Twitter or book a session with her today!