How to do the work…

In Advice and Encouragement, Mental and Emotional Health by Debra Fileta

The work of healing is hard…But living unhealed is harder.

Both are hard. But I believe it’s even harder to live unhealed and watch that pain and dysfunction spill over onto everyone you love.

So do the work!

It’s worth every bit of hard, every breakthrough, and every minute of investment to live FREE.

Genesis 18:14 is that swift kick we need sometimes to counter our unbelief that things truly can change – Is anything too hard for the Lord?

How to “do the work” of healing:

  1. Identify one negative or unhealthy behavior you want to change.
  2. Ask yourself what feeling(s) cause you to engage in that behavior or habit.
  3. Recognize the negative thoughts that cause those feelings.
  4. Start unpacking what beliefs (about yourself, others, or God) cause those negative thoughts.
  5. Look for patterns. Where and when did those unhealthy belief systems begin to take shape in your life and history?

I want to help you “do the work” of healing and transforming your life from the inside out. Join me and hundreds of others in my FREE 31-day journey.

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Get ready to change your life from the inside out! This is your year to RESET!!!

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sexand RESET. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog,, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on FacebookInstagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!