I’ve been doing some research about the best places to meet Christian singles.
While that might sound a little creepy considering I’m happily married, the reason is that I’ve been getting bombarded with questions from my single readers about this very subject.
“Where do we meet good, godly people these days?”
“It seems like there are no more good men/women in sight!”
“Can you give us some suggestions of places to meet Christian singles?”
While I’m no matchmaker (actually, who am I kidding, I totally am!! I’ve matched up a few happily married couples so far in my circle of friends, and I’m ready to take on whoever wants to be next!) I would venture to say that there are still a decent concentration of Christian singles hovering around.
I say this with confidence, because traveling across the country to speak has allowed me the opportunity to meet some of the most amazing singles! I know they’re out there!
So here’s my quick list of the top 10 places to meet Christian singles (in no particular order).
10 Places To Meet Christian Singles
Before you roll your eyes at this obvious one, take some time to really think through it. People who are regularly attending church week-in and week-out are going to show up in your life time and time again. I think the problem we face isn’t that our churches don’t have enough singles, it’s that our singles don’t have enough of a clue (ouch, I said it!!!!). But I don’t blame them, because we’ve been sort of brain-washed into avoiding dating and staying in the friends-for-life-grey-zone for far too long. It’s time to move up and move out. So why not take a chance this weekend and ask someone out for coffee? (But make sure you read TLD first! 😉 ) It’s a great start for places to meet Christian singles.
#2 Small Group
I just love small groups. Some of my nearest and dearest friendships have come out of these intimate settings of people, sharing God, life, and usually food (bonus!). It will require you to get vulnerable, but why not take a step and get involved into a smaller group? Most churches have plenty of groups of different topics, interests, age groups and locations. So find a group that matches your style, and jump in.
#3 Serving in Ministry
There’s no better place to meet Christian singles than right out there on the battlefield of service. Serving requires sacrifice, and that’s why less than 10% of people in church actually commit to serving. But from what I know of these 10%, they are people who are eager to give of their time, their energy, and their love for the glory of God. I don’t know about you, but those are the exact kind of people that I want to be around- and more so, the type of person I want to become.
Did you know I met my husband at a conference? If you’ve read True Love Dates you would 🙂 It was a multi-generational Christian conference with all different age-groups in attendance. I was there attending the college & career class, and John was there teaching the Junior High students. We met on a lunch break, and got to know each other during a group mini-golf outing. Let’s be honest- I would have never predicted that one, but life often happens that way, doesn’t it? (PS. I’m speaking at a Singles Retreat in Whistler, British Columbia, April 2015….check it out on the speaking page if you’re interested!)
#5 Friends & Family
A recent statistic I read reported that most people meet their significant other by way of friends and family. And it makes sense, because usually, these are the people that know you the best. So put the word out there, and give your friends and family a chance to introduce you to their social circles.
I think singles often dread weddings, because they can be an aching reminder that everyone else is changing relationship status but you. But not only are weddings a necessary celebration, but a great opportunity to meet new people. So go ahead and put in your RSVP for one, and see it as a great chance to meet and mingle.
#7 Mission Trip
Don’t get me wrong. I don’t think you should rush to book your next mission trip in hopes of finding love, but the truth is, opportunities to serve alongside others is a great way to interact with and get to know people, especially those of the opposite sex. And whether or not you meet anyone, I think a mission trip is a perfect way to spend your time as a single, because it’s a chance to serve God without a hint of reservation. And it will likely completely change your life.
If you’re out of college, consider enrolling in a course or class of something that interests you. Take an art or cooking class, sign up for ballroom dancing lessons, or join an athletic club team. Do what interests you, because there you’ll likely find people who are interested in the same things. And similar interests are a great start to a relationship.
I read somewhere that 30% of singles meet their spouse online these days. Now, this information was published by an online dating site, but whether or not the statistic is accurate, there is no doubt that times are changing. I know many happily married couples that met online, and not only that, but I interact with many awesome men and women just because of this very blog, Twitter, and our Facebook Page (check the comments sections every now and then for some legit people….but watch out for the creepers!!) I would say it’s a great way to connect with other believers as long as you go into it with caution, wisdom, and realistic expectations (more on online dating do’s and don’ts).
#10 As You Live Out Life
At the end of the day, your most important priority should have less to do with finding the love of your life- and more to do with finding your purpose in life. As you live our your passion and the calling God has placed on your life, you’ll be moving toward His big picture for your life. And when you’re running after God – you’ll always be running in the right direction. Relationships included.
Liked this article? Check out the Top 5 NON TRADITIONAL PLACES to meet other Christian Singles. And get ready for a chuckle.
Are you feeling stuck in the dead-end of relationships going no where? Are you having a hard time finding people to connect with? Get ready to jump-start your relationship by enrolling in this 21 Days to Jump-Start Your Love Life and instantly join our private Facebook Page…a place to learn, grow, meet, and connect with other singles.
Whether you’re single, dating, or married: learn more about what really makes a marriage in Choosing Marriage: Why It HAS To Start With We > Me
Debra Fileta is a Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life, and Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me where she writes candidly about love, sex, dating, relationships, and marriage. You may also recognize her voice from her 200+ articles at Relevant Magazine, Crosswalk.com, and all over the web! She’s the creator of this True Love Dates Blog, reaching millions of people with the message that healthy people make healthy relationships! Connect with her on Facebook or Twitter or book a session with her today!