Toni Collier

Codependent Relationships: On-Air Counseling with Toni Collier

In Podcast by Debra Fileta

Over the next few weeks I’ll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok?  This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we’re really doing mentally and emotionally.

It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we’re doing as Christians.

Today’s session is Toni Collier. Toni and her husband Sam are pastors of a thriving church in Atlanta, Georgia. Today Toni opens up about her history of codependent relationships, finding herself in a toxic relationship at a very young age. She talks about getting to the root of her need to be a “caregiver” that started in the trauma of her childhood, being the primary caregiver for her ailing mother — although she wasn’t really aware of all of these roots until until age 24 when it all began to manifest in her life.

She carried the pain of her past for many years, which led her into alcohol abuse, and toxic behavior, and codependent relationships — until she stopped to face the pain and abuse from her past.

This conversation with Toni is SO SO powerful and healing, for any of you who have the roots of a “caregiver” and are feeling burnout and stuck in a cycle of codependent relationships– this conversation is one you must listen to.

Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking — Are YOU really OK?

So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Anthony on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. 

Now it’s your turn. It’s time for YOU to get real about how you’re doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let’s do the work of getting healthy from the inside out.



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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog,, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on FacebookInstagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today!

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