The One-Sided Relationship

In Advice and Encouragement, Dating, Podcast, Relationships, Single by Debra Fileta

Have you ever found yourself in one-sided relationship where you are doing ALL the work? Where you are giving, and giving, and giving – and getting little to nothing in return?

Why do you find yourself one-way relationships again, and again, and again? The simple answer is this:

You attract the type of relationship you think you deserve. (Tweet it!)

So how do you change that narrative? How do you start believing that you’re worth more? How do you block out the lies that tell you you’re not capable, able, deserving, or worthy?

Why am I always in a one-sided relationship?

On today’s episode, I talk to a woman who is struggling with one way relationships in every aspect of her life: from dating, to friendship. She finds that she is in a pattern of putting in all the effort, but getting nothing back in return.

I also talk through the three types of relationships you need to have in your life, because learning to recognize which type of relationship you are in will let you know whether or not it’s time to WALK AWAY from a one sided relationship.


Give this episode a quick listen, and then leave your 5-star rating and review on iTunes! It helps to get the word out and challenge others to move toward God’s best for relationships…because you always attract the type of relationship you believe you deserve! (Tweet it)

Single, dating, or married this show has something for you. Tune in to today’s show to hear licensed counselor, Debra Fileta, as she answers her caller through this unscripted conversation in this podcast episode on the Love + Relationships Podcast.


Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes:

Learn to let go of the labels in Section 1 of, True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life

Read some more about How To Deal With One Way Relationships in this TLD Article!

Let go of the labels and cling to God’s truth about who you are in Christ.

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every SeasonAre You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog,, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on FacebookInstagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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