Suicide in the Church: On-Air Counseling Session with Kayla Stoecklein

In Podcast by Debra Fileta

Over the next few weeks I’ll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok?  This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we’re really doing mentally and emotionally.

It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we’re doing as Christians.

*Trigger warning* For those of you who have struggled with one or more suicide attempts, suicidal ideations, thoughts, or intentions — the content in today’s podcast may be difficult to hear. Please listen with caution and be sure you have the support of a professional counselor.*

Today’s session is with Kayla Stoecklein. Kayla and her family went through a horrific season of darkness, when her husband Andrew – an incredible pastor and leader of a mega-church, died by suicide in 2018.

Kayla talks us through Andrew’s difficult journey with mental illness and suicide, as well as her own journey in the process – as a spouse of someone with a mental illness. She has an important message to share, reminding us of the great need to understand mental health issues– because it’s truly life or death.

I know this on-air session with him will challenge you. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking — Are YOU really OK?

So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Kayla Stoecklein on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. 

Now it’s your turn. It’s time for YOU to get real about how you’re doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let’s do the work of getting healthy from the inside out.



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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog,, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on FacebookInstagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today!

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