Learning to say no is one of the most important skills you'll master as an adult. Saying no can be hard, but knowing WHY to say no is the first step.

Just Say NO: How Doing Less Is More w/ Jeff Bethke.

In Podcast by Debra Fileta

Are you the type of person who has a hard time saying no? Because if so, the inability to say no is likely going to start impacting your health, as well as the health of your relationships.

If you’re anything like the average American, you’re probably feeling burned-out and spread thin. We live in a society that has absolutely no margin. We’re so caught up in the rat race of life that we’ve lost our ability to rest, to breathe, to think, to pray, and to have space in our life to do the only thing God has called us to do: love Him and love others well.

Today’s caller is feeling just that. He’s having a hard time learning to say no, and his guilt has caused him to over-commit and over-schedule, and now he’s feeling like he’s got nothing left to give to those around him.

Just Say No

Learning the power of no is something we don’t talk about enough as Christians.

We wrongly believe that showing love automatically means saying yes all the time.

But not only is that untrue, it’s also unhealthy.

Learning to say no has the power to change our lives and our relationships.

To talk through today’s question, I invited my good friend, author and spoken-word-artist Jefferson Bethke, to join me on the Love + Relationships Podcast. One thing I appreciate about Jeff and his wife Alyssa, is their laser-focus and their ability to set boundaries that protect their schedules, their calling, and their family.

Today’s conversation is SO SO good, and even if you THINK you are good at saying no and setting boundaries and limits, this podcast episode will likely give you another perspective.

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Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY

Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes:

Recommended Reading – Margin: Restoring Emotional, Physical, and Financial Time Reserves to Overloaded Lives. 

Connect with Jeff and Alyssa Bethke!

For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Oversharing in Relationships – 10 Things Not To Talk About Too Soon


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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on FacebookInstagram, or Twitter