Quickie Sex or Not So Quickie? That’s today’s topic!
Q: Sometimes I’d enjoy something spontaneous, but my wife prefers to wait until the end of the night so she can unwind. How can we honor each other’s preferences?
Over the course of the next few weeks, in celebration of the new book launch of Married Sex: A Christian Couple’s Guide To Reimagining Your Love Life (It’s officially available TODAY!!!! CLICK HERE TO ORDER!!!!), we’re taking all your questions about sex! Gary Thomas, my co-author, is joining me as co-host for this Love & Relationships Podcast Series: All About SEX!
Today’s question comes from a man who would like sex to be spontaneous every once in a while with quickie sex, but his wife prefers to wait until the end of the evening so she can wind down (and after the kids are in bed!) and enjoy not-so-quickie sex.
So what’s the balance of meeting the different needs and preferences that come up with sex? How do you honor each other when you have different desires? Is there any way to meet in the middle?
Gary and I tag-team this question and talk about some practical ways to honor your spouse even when you have different preferences between quick and spontaneous sex, vs. scheduled or longer sexual experiences. I also include a couple practical suggestions for those in the life stage of keeping your sex life alive even when you’ve got little kids at home (…because I can speak from experience!!!)
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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?, and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twi