How Many Dates Are Christian Singles Going On?

In Dating by Debra Fileta

I’ve been out of “the dating scene” for quite some time….

But “dating and relationships” is a topic that’s pertinent to me, because healthy relationships are something I write and speak about on a regular basis in my profession as counselor and writer.

So, last week, I started asking: What’s #TheDatingScene like these days, particularly for Christian Singles? And I’m sharing the answers with you over the next few weeks through this new blog series!

I polled my single crowd of readers and asked them to help me scope out the dating scene by answering some questions.

I asked questions like: how many dates have you been on in the past 6 months…how did you get asked out on a date…who typically initiates the date…how many different people have you dated…where do you meet people to date? (It’s not too late to take the survey if you haven’t, CLICK HERE). 

I’ve posed a few questions on my Facebook Page the past few weeks in an effort to gather some information and hear personal stories as well.

The survey results are in. And they’re interesting, to say the least. 

Over the next few weeks, I’m going to uncover some of the results I’ve gathered and hopefully start some important conversations about the state of #TheDatingScene by looking at the good, the bad, and the ugly side of dating…and talking about how we can (collectively) make it better.

Let’s start with the question we’ve all been asking…

How many dates have the majority of Christian Singles been on in the past 6 months?

The survey says…….






Over 53% (THE MAJORITY) of Christian Singles reported that they have NOT been on one date in the past 6 months. Their love life is taking a snooze. 

30.6% of them reported that they went on 1-2 dates over the past 6 months. Only 8.1% reported that they’ve been on 3-4 dates, and 7.9% reported that they’re “workin it” with 5+ dates over the past 6 months.

By looking at the survey results, it’s safe to say that the majority of Christian singles are not dating. 

I have reasons to believe why this is the case….but before I get into those in the next post, I want to hear from you:

Comment below:

Why do you think so many Christian singles are NOT GOING ON DATES?

Why has the “common date” become such a RARE thing? 

I’d love to hear your opinion or your personal story below. Let’s get this conversation going. 

And stay tuned for my entire blog series all about #TheDatingScene

Debra Fileta is a Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life, where she writes candidly about dating, relationships, and how to find true love. Her newest book, Choosing Marriage, is set to be released in the Summer of 2018! You may also recognize her voice from her 200+ articles at Relevant Magazine,, and all over the web! She’s the creator of this True Love Dates Blog, reaching over 4 million people with the message that healthy people make healthy relationships!  Connect with her on Facebook or Twitter or book a session with her today!

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