Any married person will tell you: there's a huge difference between the expectations of marriage, and the reality of what marriage is actually like.
For so many couples the struggle is real as the "reality check" of marriage begins to unfold with each passing year. But while marriage may be hard, a healthy marriage doesn't stop there.
Because by learning to journey through the hard things, you get the opportunity to experience the great things on the other side.
With a candid yet compassionate approach, licensed counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta, walks you through eight significant choices involved in taking marriage from hard to great.
Throughout each chapter, Debra shares astonishing survey results from thousands of singles and married couples, revealing intimate details about things like love, sex, conflict, communication, and attraction.
From her experience as a professional counselor and wife, Debra believes that a beautiful exchange occurs when spouses learn what it means to choose we before me.
Discover practical steps you can take on the hard-but-great journey of choosing marriage. Single or married, Choosing Marriage is a book for you!
“You are about to enter the world of a humble wife who freely admits her own mistakes; a delightful companion who is enjoyable to spend time with; a partner in a marriage that inspires, amuses, and encourages; and a therapist who knows how to get your marriage from point A to point B. "Gary Thomas, Best Selling Author of Sacred Marriage
"Choosing Marriage is a must-read for anyone who is hoping to marry someday AND for those who want to improve their marriage. In the book, Fileta masterfully addresses what it takes to cultivate and keep a thriving marriage through real life stories, practical tips, Biblical scripture, and probing questions. She gives both married and single people hope that they, too, can foster an amazing, lifelong marriage with the one they love." Dave and Ashley Willis, StrongerMarriages.com
"Debra Fileta writes with passion and heart in this compelling book. She shows all of us how to overcome the inevitable challenges of married life by making the right choices. In short, Debra reveals how choosing marriage, every day, leads to deep and abiding lifelong love. Whether you are single, engaged or married, you don’t want to miss out on this profound and practical message". Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, New York Times Bestselling authors of Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts
Whether you’re a happy couple, in need of help, or a single looking ahead, Choosing Marriage is a tour de force for anyone seeking to achieve a great marriage. My team and I see a lot of great marriage books – and this is one of the best we’ve ever read. You’ll quickly find practical, achievable suggestions, humor, and road-tested insight from years of working marriage therapy...This is a must-read!Shaunti Feldhahn, social researcher and best-selling author of For Women Only and The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages
"No matter what season of marriage you are in, Choosing Marriage will offer encouragement and hope to find even more satisfaction in your relationship. Debra’s counseling experience and biblical knowledge are woven together with some great stories and practical advice to help every couple learn how to experience a richer, more meaningful life together." John Fuller, Focus on The Family
"Debra Fileta is a gifted counselor and an excellent communicator. Choosing Marriage is a true masterpiece among the crowded shelves of marriage books. It is for everyone who is married or has a future marriage on their radar. Debra very practically walks you through changes that will literally transform any marriage. Choosing Marriage redefines real hope in marriage!"Kim Kimberling Founder of Awesome Marriage and author of 7 Secrets to an Awesome Marriage
"Choosing Marriage is the kind of book that you will underline, highlight, dog-ear, re-read, and then subtly leave open on your spouse’s side of the bed for them to (hopefully) pick up and read, forcing you to purchase clean copies for your family and friends. When we were seeking an author/speaker/expert for a large event on marriage and relationships in California we chose Debra Fileta, and the attenders loved her. When college students and young adults seek dating and relationship advice, we gift them with a copy of True Love Dates. And now, whenever we counsel those seeking insight and advice on marriage, we plan to give them Choosing Marriage. It is an engaging, insightful and professional look into the most intimate of all of our relationships—our marriages—that is based on Debra’s clinical expertise, sound research and her own personal journey. For those of you who seek to choose marriage—who desire authentic intimacy, biblical insights, and practical ways to grow your marriage—you are holding the best book you can find in your hands. Please wait to highlight or dog-ear it after you purchase it."Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace, Center for Marriage and Relationships, Biola University
“Put this book at the top of your reading list and buy one for a friend! My bride and I really enjoyed reading Choosing Marriage together. We were inspired and challenged to have a healthier relationship and given practical advice on how to do it. It’s evident that Debra is not only a much sought after national speaker, but also a highly skilled author.”Chris Reed, Pastor to 20s/30s & Singles at Saddleback Church, Lake Forest, CA