relationship blind spots

Biggest Mistakes Couples Make In Conflict

In Podcast by Debra Fileta

Q: What are some of the biggest mistakes couples make in conflict?

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Today’s question comes from a woman who wants to know the mistakes we make when it comes to conflict. Conflict in a relationship is inevitable — so how do you deal with it in a healthy way? What are some signs you’re not handling it well? What are some steps to take in the right direction instead?

You learn how to manage conflict by default — meaning, you do what you’ve seen done in the past, usually from your family of origin. But sometimes the way it’s been modeled isn’t the healthy way.

Today, I tag-team this question with Brad Aldrich (BOOK A SESSION WITH Brad).  Brad and I talk through a few mistakes we see people make in conflict, and then offer you practical advice on what to do instead!! Even if you’re not in a romantic or marriage relationship, this is information you need to know because conflict comes up in all our relationships. And you have to know how to handle it and recognize the mistakes couples make in conflict.

So tune in to today’s episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below!



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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog,, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on FacebookInstagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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