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The #1 Dating Mistake People Made in 2017

In Dating by Debra Fileta

At the close of every year, I ask my single readers to tell me the #1 dating mistake they made over the past year.

Because we can either learn from our mistakes, or we can repeat them.

Just this week, I had over 500 singles from all across the nation respond to my dating survey in just less than 24 hours after it was posted.

And the results were mind boggling.

The #1 dating mistake singles reported making this year was this:

They didn’t take the chance to ask someone on a date.


What’s so astounding about this answer is not the answer itself, but the fact that every year I release this “end of the year” poll, the #1 dating mistake is consistently the same. Year after year. Out of all the possible dating mistakes that could have been made this year, this answer always comes out in the lead.


My sincere belief is that so many singles are paralyzed by fear (more on that in the next post). Fear of making a mistake. Fear that they aren’t good enough. Fear of rejection. Fear that they’ll repeat the patterns of their past.

Fear is crippling. It motivates (and demotivates) people in a powerful way. It keeps you from moving forward. It prevents you from doing relationships well. And if you don’t learn to deal with it in a healthy way, it can be costly.

So how does a person begin to identify and tackle their fears toward dating and relationships? How do you get to a place where you’re willing to take chances, and push yourself in the direction of where you want your life to go?

You increase your awareness. You increase your knowledge.

You deal with your past.

You determine your identity.

You set goals for your future.

And by doing those simple yet often overlooked things – you begin to change your life, AND your love life. Because the more you know about healthy dating, the better you will do.

I believe in the power of this process – coupled with the grace and love of an incredible God.  And because of this I want to give you the chance to journey through my 21 Days To Jump Start Your Love Life Course. For just a few weeks, I’m offering this course at a 40% discount between now and January 1, 2018 (see discount code at the bottom of the article). 

I wrote this course specifically for anyone who feels stuck. For anyone who has been afraid to take those next steps in their love life. For anyone who is ready to make some major changes in their heart and in their life.

In it, you will learn about your past, make connections to your present, and figure out how to free yourself from patterns of fear, insecurity, and doubt that may be holding you back from opening yourself up to the right relationship.

Sign up for the 21 Days to JumpStart Your Love Life ecourse by clicking on the image below, and you’ll also be included in our exclusive Facebook Group with other singles who are going through the program. It’s safe place to connect and to encourage.

It’s time to learn from our mistakes and make some serious changes in 2018.

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21 Days to Jump Start Your Love Life CoverDebra Fileta is a Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life, where she writes candidly about dating, relationships, and how to find true love. Her newest book, Choosing Marriage, is set to be released in the Summer of 2018! You may also recognize her voice from her 200+ articles at Relevant Magazine,, and all over the web! She’s the creator of this True Love Dates Blog, reaching millions of people with the message that healthy people make healthy relationships!  Connect with her on Facebook or Twitter or book a session with her today!