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How to Guard Your Heart: 3 Practical Steps To Preventing “Emotional Sex”

In Dating, Relationships by Debra FiletaDecember 7, 2022

When it comes to Christian relationships, guard your heart is probably one of the most common bits of advice. But …

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Unmarried? What to do With Sexual Desires

In Advice and Encouragement, Engagement, For the Guys, For the Ladies, Relationships, Single by Debra FiletaOctober 5, 2022

Q: Can you tell me how to control sexual desires when single? My hormones seem like they’re raging, and I’m …

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4 Lies Culture Tells us About Sex

In Marriage, Relationships by Debra FiletaSeptember 22, 2022

Sex is everywhere. From the entertainment industry, to literature and music, all the way down to a basic car commercial …

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Why “Friends with Benefits” Has ZERO Benefits

In Advice and Encouragement, Dating, For the Guys, For the Ladies, Relationships by Debra FiletaAugust 24, 2022

We live in a culture with a high tolerance for unknowns.  From our fear of calling things right and wrong, …

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Why We Need To Talk More About Sex

In Advice and Encouragement, Marriage, Relationships by Debra FiletaAugust 26, 2021

Christians have a hard time talking about sex. So, the way we’ve approached this topic in recent years is simply …

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We All Come with a Price Tag

In Dating, Relationships by Debra FiletaJanuary 1, 2020

One evening, I was on a walk with a prostitute. We’d become good friends over the course of my ministry …

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10 Secrets About Marriage You Need To Know

In Marriage by Debra FiletaJune 3, 2019

There are very few people that actually know what they’re getting into when it comes to marriage.  I was one of …

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What to do When He/or She Isn’t a Virgin

In Advice and Encouragement, Dating, For the Guys, For the Ladies, Relationships by Debra FiletaApril 25, 2019

I got an email from a concerned virgin: a young man troubled by the sexual sins of his partner’s past.  …

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3 Simple Reasons You Should Wait for Sex

In Relationships by Debra FiletaMarch 27, 2019

I didn’t realize premarital sex was so controversial…until I started getting the hate mail. I say that, because I’ve received …

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5 Reasons 50 Shades of Grey is TRASH

In For the Ladies, Marriage, Relationships by Debra FiletaFebruary 1, 2018

To say I’m appalled by the positive reaction to 50 Shades of Grey is an understatement. But what’s even more alarming to …

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Stop Expecting Me To Have Sex With You

In Dating, Relationships, Single by Debra FiletaDecember 20, 2016

There’s a disturbing trend that’s sweeping the nation. It’s impacting our sons, influencing our daughters, and affecting our entire culture. …

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Should Christians get Married to Have Sex?

In Advice and Encouragement, Dating, Marriage, Relationships, Single by Debra FiletaNovember 14, 2016

Misconception #4: Christians should get married so they can have sex rather than struggle with temptation. I knew a girl …

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The Secret to Epic Sex is Virginity (And other lies we believe…)

In Advice and Encouragement, Marriage, Relationships by Debra FiletaNovember 7, 2016

Misconception #2: If you wait until marriage, sex on your wedding night will be epic! They had been married for …

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Singles Shouldn’t Want Sex (And Other Lies Christians Believe…)

In Relationships, Single by Debra FiletaNovember 2, 2016

We need to talk more about sex. My last post introduced this new blog series on SEX by offering up 4 …

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[AUDIO LESSON] Sex and The Single Life: What To Do With Desires While You Wait

In Advice and Encouragement, Dating, For the Guys, For the Ladies, Premium Content Library by Debra FiletaJanuary 3, 2016

Sex.  It’s on your mind, because being single doesn’t mean you’re immune to sexual desires. The problem is that this …