Must read self-help and inspirational books in 2021.

Must-Read Books in 2021

In Advice and Encouragement by Debra Fileta

Today we’re talking must-read books in 2021. What are you going to learn in 2021? How are you going to grow? So much of that depends on what you choose to learn. I love books. Not only because I’m an author myself, but because I LOVE learning. Books have shaped me and discipled me. Books have encouraged me and challenged me. Books have helped me heal and transform (you’ll notice my affinity for self-help and inspirational books in the list below). 

As we approach the end of one year and the start of a new year, I want to list some of my favorite books I’ve read or reread this past year that you HAVE to put on your reading list for books in 2021. 

Must-Read Books in 2021

Are You Really Ok?Are You Really OK? Getting real about who you are, how you’re doing, and why it matters. 

This is my latest book coming out in 2021, and I want you to put it on your reading list! It was a book sown with many tears, and I’m praying it reaps a harvest of healing. When someone asks you how you’re doing, it’s easy to quickly say, “I’m ok,” without putting much thought into it. But are you really ok? This book will take you on a journey through emotional, mental, spiritual and physical healing – and for the first time publicly, I reveal my own personal journey through depression, anxiety, trauma, panic attacks, medication and therapy. It’s a raw, real look into getting healthy from the inside out. 

Together: Reclaiming Co-Leadership in Marriage

My friends Tim and Anne wrote this book, and it’s truly put words to the way my husband and I view marriage. It’s so beautifully written, but even more beautifully lived out in their lives. Tim suddenly passed away this past August, but his life and legacy will live on in this book forever. I know it will challenge the way you view marriage and I highly recommend you put it on your 2021 reading list!!

Attachment: The new science of adult attachment and how it can help you find and keep love. 

If you don’t know anything about attachment styles, you need to start here. Your early childhood development and relationships plays a huge role in shaping your relationships today. This book will help you understand those patterns! (not a faith-based book). 

Holy Noticing: The Bible, your brain, and the mindful space between moments. 

What do you think when you hear the word meditation? Well, believe it or not it’s a Christian-based concept, and the practice of meditation could transform your life. This is an incredible faith-based book on meditation. If you struggle to have insight and to take the time to look inward — Add it to your list!

The Body Keeps The Score: Brain, mind, and body in the healing of trauma. 

If you have any history of trauma in your past, this book is a must-read. Though it’s not a faith-based book, it will help you understand the impact of your past trauma on your present life. 

The Hiding Place

This book was a perfect read this past year, because it gave so much perspective on what it really means to trust God through hard times. This book is a true story of Corrie ten Boom, a woman who was imprisoned in a concentration camp for harboring Jews during World War 2, and her experience as well as her perspective is inspiring, challenging, and life-changing. 

Anywhere He Leads Me

I was on a Corrie ten Boom kick this year, so I got this devotional as well with bite-sized lessons from Corrie. Really enjoyed it!

Out of the Shadows: Understanding sexual addiction  

This book is a must-read for ayone who is struggling with sexual addiction whether via pornography or sexual behavior. Patrick Carnes is the leading expert on sexual addictions, and he takes a deep dive into helping you understand what’s happening in your brains so you can begin overcoming addiction. I’ve recommended this book many times this year, and if this is an area of struggle for you, add it to your list. 

Love In Every SeasonLove In Every Season: Understanding the Four Seasons of Every Healthy Relationship

This is another of my books that released in 2020, and I’m so grateful for the feedback I’ve received about this one!! It’s a book that uncovers the four seasons you HAVE to understand if you want to have a healthy relationship. Each season reveals something new about the relationship, and how you navigate each season will make or break your relationships. If you have a hard time understanding why relationships don’t work, or if you want to make your relationships better, this is a must-read book for 2021. 

Keep checking back…more recommendations being added every day this week! Comment below: Is there a topic you’d like to learn about? Tell me, and I’ll tell you which book I recommend!!


Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.

Are You Really Ok?

Love In Every Season

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And Check out Debra’s Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts!

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog,, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on FacebookInstagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today!