155 Days in Marriage.

In Advice and Encouragement, Guest Post, Marriage, Relationships by Debra Fileta

Guest Post: Kyle Cash is the Digital Ministry Manager at True Love Dates & the Debra Fileta Counselors Network.

155 Days. That’s just about how long the “honeymoon phase” lasted.

Eager and excited to start our new life together, we blindly woke up each morning unaware of the challenges of a simple four-letter word called LIFE. Our wedding was everything a couple could ask for. Surrounded by a packed room of our friends and family with a honeymoon that lived up to the excitement. Young and naive, the world was at our fingertips.

Of course, we were broke and barely making ends meet, but we quickly turned our fixer-upper into the “love shack.” We laughed, we stayed up late, we dreamed, and then we laughed some more.

For about 155 days.

Who knew that like a flip of a page life could change so quickly?

August 14th, 2016, was the flip of a new page for us. Our “love shack” was destroyed by a 1 in 1000 year flood. Get that. Underinsured and a little oblivious, How could the dream end so quickly? How could LIFE take it away so fast? How could this be real?

The images of pulling up to our home by boat with our wedding gifts, still boxed, floating around the house, will forever be burned in my mind. The reoccurring nightmares of water rushing into our home still linger and the endless nights of bouncing from house to house are just a distant memory.

155 days of “honeymooning”.

Day 155 ended with tears.

Day 156 began in PRAYER.

Prayers that God would make a way. Prayers that God would provide. Prayers that God would somehow use this tragedy for our good. In the moment I would have given anything to rewrite history. I would have given anything to turn back the clock for another chance; for another try. But the truth is that it built our faith, it taught us how to communicate, and how to support one another. We learned how to live without a lot before we ever had a lot.

As unpopular as this may be, I’m thankful for the tragedy early on in our marriage. I’m thankful for day 155 because we learned a valuable lesson about building a home. It can’t be taken from you.

Sure, with the exception of our dinnerware, everything was a total loss. Our clothes, our furniture, our keepsakes…

But our “house” was never built on any of those things. Our “house” was built on Jesus.

The waters came, and the winds blew, but our “house” was built on HIM.

The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. Matthew 7:25 NIV.

Maybe you find yourself on day 155.

Laughter has turned to fear.

Joy has turned to doubt.

Your dreams have turned to unmet expectations.

I want to encourage you… Weeping may last for a night, but JOY comes with the morning. Psalms 30:5.

Day 155 is a tough one, but I want you to know that day 156 is just a page-turn away.

Last March my wife and I celebrated 8 years of marriage, and I have to confess that I live a life that I could have never imagined. I look back and I’m humbled by what God has done. We have 2 precious little girls, and a beautiful home with loads of stories to tell, but the biggest one of all is about the goodness of God.

If you are on day 155…

Hang in there.

Don’t give up.

Keep believing.

Day 156 is just a page-turn away.

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Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy RelationshipChoosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life.

Kyle graduated from Liberty University with a Bachelor’s degree in Business Administration. He is a member of the team here at Truelovedates.com and the Debra Fileta Counselors Network, where he manages our Digital Ministry. Kyle has a passion for the local church and is committed to helping people experience freedom in Christ.