take care of yourself as a single

10 Ways Singles Need to Take Care of THEMSELVES

In Advice and Encouragement, Single by Debra Fileta

If you’ve read True Love Dates or followed TrueLoveDates.com for any bit of time, you’ve likely heard me say that “healthy people attract healthy relationships”. 

I say it all the time because it’s so simple, yet so incredibly life-changing for those who grasp that reality.

Human beings are magnetic. We’re drawn to people who are on similar levels of emotional, spiritual, and psychological health as we are.

This is why self-care and health are such a crucial part of life no matter what your relationship status. The more you take care of yourself, the more you propel yourself to a better place, where you’ll naturally attract (and be attracted to) people who are also at a “better place”.

So, I asked singles to tell me:

What are the BEST things you do to take care of yourself as a single?

I loved the answers so much, I decided to share them with you. Here are some of my favorites, summarized into 10 categories. I hope they inspire you, encourage you, and challenge you to see the incredible importance of taking care of YOURSELF. 

Get connected with good people:

“Surround yourself with good, encouraging, and godly people who will build you up and not tear you down.” “I get together with a mixed group of singles and marrieds once a week for bible study/social hangout which is great for variety.” “Spending time with my family while I have the chance!” “Having a community is THE BEST thing you can do for yourself when you are single.”

Take some time to see the world:

“Travel. I make sure to take at least 2 trips a year, domestic or international. I always feel better after getting out of town for a bit.”

Deepen your relationship with Jesus:

“Time-outs spent with God by myself are the best things.” “I turn to God’s Word” “Write to God in my journal”.

Read a lot of good books:

“Read books that promote emotional & spiritual health (such as True Love Dates, those by Henry Cloud, Lysa Terkeurst, Renee Swope, & Mandy Hale)”

Find an accountability partner to keep you on track:

“I spend time in meaningful conversations with other single female friends and keep accountable with them.”

Get counseling:

“See a therapist!” “There’s no better investment than getting yourself emotionally and mentally healthy”

Take care of your body:

“Setting a goals, exercise, prayer, reading, eating the right food and stay optimistic.” “Try regular massages, manicures and pedicures!”

Live in the moment:

“Star-gazing, being outside walking in the rain, sunrises & sunsets, and going for long drives.” “Go for long walks.”

Set goals for yourself:

“Try a vision board collage.” “Write down your goals.”

Get plugged into church:

“I like to keep busy with going to church, ladies conferences, bible studies anything to feed my spirit.” “Go to church/community groups!”

Comment below: What are some of the BEST ways you take care of yourself as a single?

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on FacebookInstagram, or Twitter