We All Come with a Price Tag

In Advice and Encouragement, For the Ladies, Relationships, Single by Debra Fileta23 Comments

One evening, I was on a walk with a prostitute….

We’d become good friends over the course of my ministry to this specific inner city location.  That evening, I had pulled into the street to make some visits and happened to see her camped out on the street corner, looking for some business.

I got out of the car and walked over to her, and we started to chat.   If you know me, you know I’m not much for small talk, so I quickly got right to the point.  I knew she had been working at letting go of this particular “job”, and so I wondered what she was doing here today.

“So…What’s going on?” I said.

She looked down at the ground and replied, “Well, I’m in another bind, and it’s a way to make some money.”

I don’t remember too many details of our conversation that evening, but there is one thing she said through the course of our talk that I will likely never forget, because it made my stomach churn, my heart sink, and my spirit ache.

“50 bucks is real good money”


A few months ago I was having a conversation with another young woman.  She had been sexually involved with a guy who had now cheated on her.  But the problem was, they were never even dating to begin with.

Their interactions in friendship started crossing the emotional and physical lines, until one thing led to another.  Shortly after that they were regularly having sex and fooling around, with no commitment, no conversation, and no real relationship.  She came to chat with me after 4 months of this “relationship” left her with a broken heart, and a broken sense of self.


I can’t help but see a theme that connects both of these stories together.  Two different women from totally different parts of the country, from different socio-economic status, different races, and different ages.  But with one thing in common:

They each come with a price tag.  

But don’t we all?

If we’re really honest with ourselves, we will realize that this one very important truth is actually reflected in how we live our lives.  It may be a literal price tag, like the prostitute’s cost of a one-night stand- but more significant, it may be an emotional price tag.  Either way, it is a price tag that we each placed on ourselves based on what we believe we deserve.

No matter how we look at it, there is no getting around the fact that the giving of ourselves will ALWAYS come at a cost.   Whenever we choose to engage in any kind of relationship with another human being, there is always some sort of a cost involved.  It will cost us our heart, our spirit, our bodies, and our minds. It will cost our emotions, our time, our commitment, and our energy.

We always come with a price tag, and we will value ourselves with the price tag that we believe we deserve.

But even more sobering, we will be purchased at the price that we place on ourselves.  

If you believe you’re worth a measly $50 dollars–or an ambiguous relationship that revolves only around sex— that is exactly what you will get.

The most difficult truth is that there are some woman who set their price tag so low- because they are desperately looking for love.

But if you’re easy to purchase, you’ll also be easy to replace.  

My heart goes out to every woman who has ever settled and let her price down.  For every woman who has ever allowed her heart up to be wounded, broken, and bruised at the hands of someone who didn’t see the value that she truly possessed.  Daughter of God, no matter who you are or what you’ve been through – you are worth so much more than what you believe you deserve.

You have been purchased by a God who saw that you were worth far more than you ever could have imagined, and so He bought you at a high cost just to prove it.  You were purchased by the blood of Jesus- a God who gave His very Son so that you could have your value, your security, and your worth.  So that you could hold your head up high.  So that you could believe that you are worth magnificent, and you are worth remarkable.

It’s time for this generation of women to rise up and claim the price by which we’ve been purchased (1 Corn 7:23).  It’s time to recognize that our price has been set high, and that we are worth someone who sees the significant worth that was given to us by the God who makes things valuable.  It’s time to say no to lies that degrade our bodies, invalidate our emotions, and muffle our voices- making us feel small and insignificant.

Because what we believe about ourselves will always determine how we live.  

We all come with a price tag.  It’s time to start believing that we are worth so much more.


I hope you enjoyed this article, it’s one of my FAVES!! I can’t even believe it…the one-year anniversary of my book, True Love Dates, is right around the corner! In honor of this special anniversary, I am re-sharing some of my absolute favorite posts from the blog leading up to the big day: October 8th, and encouraging you to like, share, post, and tweet all your favorites by scrolling down below!

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Debra Fileta is a Professional Counselor, speaker, and author of the book True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life, where she writes candidly about dating, relationships, and how to find true love. You may also recognize her voice from her 50+ articles at Relevant Magazine! She’s also the creator of this True Love Dates Blog Connect with her on Facebook or Twitter

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This is by far the best post you’ve written. I often say that in this generation dating is very challening. Some men don’t really want to put in the time and effort to get to know someone because there are women that have made it too easy by giving of themselves sp freely. This article is so very true in that we all have a price. We can look and turn our noses up at the prostitute thinking we’re so much better, but really are we, if we’re giving of ourselves in the same manner. I’ve been battling with purity… Read more »

I am a 61 year old widow and this post rings as true for me as it does for Alex. Thank you, Debra, for sharing your insight with us!

Tabitha Raj

Great Article! I have purchased your book and have really enjoyed getting all of your blogs in my emails!! You are a blessing 🙂


I honestly loved this article! As a young 23-year-old girl who has been used and love-abused only to turn around and do the same to others, it spoke to the hidden, dusty corners of my heart that were filled with pain. I loved your words: “We always come with a price tag, and we will value ourselves with the price tag that we believe we deserve.” It rings true! Though I got baptized last year, I still went back to the very same patterns that were a part of my old life. Your article forced me to deal with a… Read more »

Nice one Debra, its also my favorite post. Happy anniversary and God bless you


I have now read several of your posts and this one out of all of them revved up my spirit. The truth in these written words resonated with me more than i can find words to express. I see God’s workmanship in you. Thank you for sharing.


I have learnt and been taught through this article. God bless you even as you minister to us.


Amazing article, this works for guys as well, i think

ruth ndank

Thats right. We’re blessed n highly favored coz His blood. Ur article touch my heart so deeply. Happy anniversary. I wait 4 ur post again Jbu


I have absolutely enjoyed this article,all what you have said is true and am so touched that i nearly cried, because you have spoken to my heart and i needed to hear that and am glad i now know that we all have a price tag.In this life we live in we all pay a price in one way or the other,no mater the situation or status of a person.
May God continue to bless you even as you bless others.


This really good. I re-shared it on Facebook!

Lee A. Winters III
From mid-way through 2001 to Dec. 31, 2003 was a period of time I have come to know as The Dark Years. I was emotionally broken and severely depressed, even to the point of asking God to take me home. I saw so much in those horrible years of people selling themselves cheaply. I must have seen hundreds of couples bicker over the trivial, and at ages across the spectrum. At work, I was nearly brought to tears when a teenage co-worker verbally abused his girlfriend – knowing he had enjoyed more with her in thirty seconds than I had… Read more »
Wow, as a 20 year old young woman who has experienced some of these things, I can’t get over how much I related to the article. I gave my heart, body, and emotions away to a guy, and we weren’t even in a relationship either but he told me I was the only one. He ended up cheating on me as well, got another girl pregnant, and I have to deal with seeing her come to church with her belly growing, and I have to deal with seeing him too. Then to top all of that off, he was sexually… Read more »

I dont understand this price thing

This is so true. I believe there would be a whole lot less promiscuity in the world if women really and truly understood they were daughters of the King. Isaiah 43 comes to mind. But now, this is what the Lord says— he who created you, Jacob, he who formed you, Israel: “Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine. 2 When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire,… Read more »

Those poor women. God gave nations in exchange for your life because you are precious in his sight.

You are worth far more than $50 or some empty promises.

As someone who within the last year has gone through sexual assault, I read this and a part of my heart broke, I have been struggling with finding and seeing my worth again. I have for the most part always had the underlying factor that my value has come from Christ, but regaining that back has been incredibly difficult. I wish that reading this post was all it took to remind me how much I am worthy to be valued but I know that there is much more to that. This post is really important to hear because I know… Read more »