Trusting God When You’ve Never Been Asked Out

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The following is a guest post by my behind-the-scenes helper at truelovedates.com, Molly Jasinski.  This is a post she shared with me about the important lessons she’s learned during this time in her life.  I thought it was worth sharing.  Please give it a read, and leave her some feedback!

I’ve never turned down a date. Because I’ve never been asked out on one.   

This is something very few people know about me. It’s a fact I have kept hidden up to this point, be it out of embarrassment or shame or just in an attempt to avoid awkward questions.

But it’s true. No boyfriend, ever.  And I’m almost 26. (You can insert an “ouch” here if you so desire.)

There have definitely been times where it hurts. It hurts to go to those holiday parties where everyone brings a significant other except you. It hurts when people basically pat you on the head and say unhelpful things, such as “It’ll happen when you’re not looking.” It hurts when you see yet ANOTHER engagement photo on Facebook.

For a good number of years I had a “woe is me” attitude.  Heaps and heaps of self-pity and loathing, wondering what was wrong with me and what should I fix. But it hurts most in those moments where you have too much alone time, too much time to think. In those moments, the loneliness can just ache, and you start to wonder if that ache will ever go away. I had a PLAN of what my life was supposed to look like when I was 24, and nothing has happened the way I had imagined.

I’d be completely lying if I tried to say, “Oh, it’s never been that much of an issue” or “Oh, I’m just interested in dating Jesus.” One of those answers is false, and one is just weird.

But when I think about my time as a single person, I realize there are three particular lessons God has taught me through this period of waiting:

1.  God’s plans are better than mine. One verse I’ve often clung to is Jeremiah 29:11: “For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Notice how it does not say “plans for your future which has to include a husband or you’ll never meet your life’s purpose.” Yet for years (and still occasionally on a day-to-day basis), I would unconsciously contort or add that part in my mind.

But lately I’’ve been given so much clarity and peace from God about my years of singleness. I can now see that a dating relationship earlier in my life wouldn’t have been right timing. I had a lot of growing up to do as I figured out who I was as an individual. I am so much more comfortable with myself now at 25 than I was at 16, 18, or even 24. I moved around a lot in my early 20s, first for college and then for different internships and jobs. Those experiences forced me to branch out, meet new people, and try different things. I became a more confident, fun-loving, adventurous person because I forced myself to live life beyond my initial dreams, and none of that would have happened if I would have just followed my plan for my life.

2.  There is a joy in being single.  I know, it sure doesn’t feel like it at times. Let me explain: I observe my married friends all the time. Yes, they get to enjoy an awesome relationship, romantic dates, life dreams, and all that jazz, but they also have to rely on each other, make decisions together, and occasionally disagree passionately with each other. When you’re single, you and you alone call the shots. If I want to go on a vacation, I go. If I want to go buy something, I can buy it. You get the idea. There’s also a lot more time for my personal relationship with God–I don’t have to consider someone else’s schedule when it comes to my quiet time with God, going to my Bible study, or even my commitment to my church’s children’s ministry. There’s a significant freedom in being single that is often overlooked and under-enjoyed.

3.  God cares, really.  It’s easy to take our eyes off God when the sadness creeps in and threatens to steal the joy in life. Whether it’s because of a lack of a love life or something else, those times can cause you to become discouraged and wonder where God is. But Deuteronomy 31:6 says, “He will never leave you nor forsake you.”

I’ve experienced this more times than I can count, but I definitely experienced this when I moved 1,500 miles away from home (and my family) for a new job. I didn’t know anyone and had never been to my new city before I moved. I was terrified of leaving my family and being all alone, even though God had shown me this was what He wanted for me. But He didn’t leave me on my own–He provided me a great roommate through my new church, and she in turn introduced me to her Bible study, which provided me a family away from family for two years. He is always near, always constant, always loving, even when we don’t see it initially.

I’ve learned a lot from being single. Through all these lessons, I can confidently say that I am looking forward to 2014. Whether this new year brings me a boyfriend at long last or not, I know He holds the future in His hands, and that knowledge gives me hope and peace. If you’re in a similar situation, hang in there, trust in Him, and know that you’re not alone! Let’s make 2014 our year for big things and wholeheartedly following Him.

Molly Jasinski is passionate about a lot of things, including serving Jesus, helping with behind-the-scenes work on TrueLoveDates.com, spending time with family and friends, and cheering for the Green Bay Packers. You can follow her stream-of-consciousness thoughts on her personal blog or Twitter.

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Ganise
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Yes! I love that 🙂 I’m 17 and I’ve never been asked out. I mostly believe it’s because I am not opened to the idea right now. I’ve shamelessly told friends that I’m using this season to grow – spiritually, most of all. I realize that I have so much to learn but I agree with you – singleness really hurts, sometimes. However, I also agree that there’s joy in being single! Lots of joy.Love spending my time with God, with family and friends, learning to live life to the fullest! I don’t know if by the time I’m in… Read more »
Molly
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Ganise,

Thanks for your comment! You have such a great and positive outlook on this season of life–good for you, girl! I’m sure God will bring someone special into your life at exactly the right time. 🙂

Brenda
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What a great article, Molly! Society puts so much emphasis (wrongly) on dating and getting involved at such an early age. Although I grew up in a Christian family, my mom and dad never gave me many boundaries. I was dating an 18 year old at the age of 13. Yes, so not good. A very bad idea. I made many foolish mistakes, all of which would have never happened had I stepped back and really worked on developing who I was as a young adult, without the added pressure of dating. You see, I only saw my value through… Read more »
Molly
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Thanks so much for sharing your story, Brenda! And yes, God’s timing is always best!

Katy
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Perfect! Thanks for these reminders and encouragement!!

Love,
An inpatient, single, 24-year-old

Molly
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You’re not alone! 🙂

A
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Molly I got to say that your story is amazing and I could definitely relate to it because I’m single and I hate being that way. I want to do anything for love like when you hear the song, “Oh I would do anything for love,” even putting her before me no matter what but as a single guy, that hurts quite a bit because I feel worthless when I’m single and I base it on the way I look. For a while now, I haven’t found myself attractive. I’m over weight, I barely have any money so trying to… Read more »
Raquel
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I understand what that’s like, not exactly but similar. I just want to say that your story really touched me. I am 20 and single and a close friend is engaged. Also I get jealous of people who are dating sometimes. I’ll pray for you A and the people above. I’m also trying to see the beauty in me. Pursuing God is a good thing to do. I congratulate you on your baptism. If only I could see it. Well one more thing is that even though I’ve never met you or seen you, you are beautiful and handsome and… Read more »
Molly
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I love how you said that the feeling of being lonely is growing less and less the more you pursue God. It’s so true. The times I feel the most down about being single is when I allow myself to get too much in my own head and lose my focus on what God has planned for me. I’ve struggled with many of the same things you mentioned in your comment, so you’re not alone. The toughest years for me personally were the college years–my college had a BIG emphasis on “find your soulmate here!” and that never happened for… Read more »
Mimi
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Is there an update from this story? It’s been almost two years later haha

Simone
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Molly, thank you for being brave and writing this. I praise God that you did. It’s only when we write and when we read that we realize that we’re not alone. This post could very well have been written by me. I can honestly say I know how you feel. I’m 26 in one month. I’ve only been asked out once — when I was 20. Since then, men have shown some interest I guess, but yup — I find myself in my mid-twenties and I’ve never had a boyfriend or been on a real date. I have since recently… Read more »
Molly
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Thanks so much for your comment, Simone. I feel like we’re kindred spirits. 🙂 So awesome that you’re open to whatever God has planned for you–I’m excited for you!

Mike
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I love it when women who belong to their first love are guarded by circumstances and learn to be patient. I realized along the way that one of the best ways for a man to become a man of God is to be careful to only marry the right woman because the right woman will be one of God’s primary instruments in making him a man of God. That goes both ways, so it’s vital to wait patiently on the Lord.

Simone C.
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XD we have the same name! That’s awesome! Also, thanks for writing this Molly!! I’m just another 13 year old and I go to this pretty awesome Christian school (best chapter of my life so far) and I have two friends that are dating rn and the other two of my close friend group are sort of in a relationship I guess? One is hanging out with this one guy and they text and stuff and the other (to which I’m really close with- we talk about this sort of stuff a lot) liked this dude, but found out he… Read more »
Melody
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Great post, Molly. I spent almost all of my 20s being single. No one asked me out and that was embarrassing. There also wasn’t anyone I really wanted to ask me out though, which simultaneously made me feel better about not getting asked out and hopeless about ever meeting the right guy. There were certainly some incredibly lonely moment there. But mostly I had a lot, a lot of fun. I realize that’s supposed to be a sentence about how much it freed me up to serve God (and it did), but that never felt super encouraging to me. What… Read more »
Anyanwu Ijeoma Esther
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Anyanwu Ijeoma Esther

Thanks molly for sharing this and encouraging me. I’ll be 34 in a few weeks and its been hell. Imagine what its like being the only one of my friends not married or in a relationship,being attracted the wrong kind of people and being labelled choosy. At a time i’d thought God hated me, self pity,complecacy, envy took over. I hardly go to church,read my bible nor pray again and it hurts. I wish to get things straight with God again.

Molly
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So sorry to hear you’ve been having such a hard time! But I do understand how you’re feeling. The majority of my friends have been married for several years and have children now. It’s hard to not feel like life is passing you by when everyone is moving past you and you thought you’d be where they are now. You mentioned wanting to reconnect with God, and that’s great! I really do think it’ll make the difference in your outlook on life. I went through a period of about a year where I wasn’t reading the Bible or praying really… Read more »
MJ
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I’m glad you came out of the closet as a never-dater. I’m betting there’s a lot more of you… and many that never intentionally kissed dating goodbye. Sharing with daters, never-daters and non-daters alike over at the Future Marriage University community.

Molly
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Ha, love the way you phrased that first sentence, MJ! (Great initials, by the way.) Following your page now!

Molly
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There’s absolutely nothing wrong with also finding the happiness with this time of our lives! Our God is a God of joy!

Asali
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Thanks so much Molly for sharing your story.i was truly blessed by your post.i was encouraged to know that there are brethren going through the same situation as i have been.im 45 and your story is my story in my 20s and 30s. i went through a period when i lost all hope (Hope had been for sure sooo….soo deferred and i was heartbroken) of ever dating or meeting “the one that God had for me, after praying and waiting for years” i decided i was the one not taking the initiative and got into 3 disastrous complicated relationships in… Read more »
Molly
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Wow, your story is so inspiring to me, Asali! Thank you for sharing, and I’ll be praying for you!

Kat
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Oh, Molls – we’ve got lots in common! Thankful for it too (1 Cor. 10:13). Debra’s blog and your post definitely causes me to confront areas of my singleness that my pride doesn’t let me talk about. It even encouraged me to blog about this so thanks again for sharing your heart. And to Debra, for you ministry!

Gal. 6:9

Molly
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Thank you so much for sharing, Kat! I read your blog post on your personal blog, and it was wonderful. So glad the Lord brought us together to share our common experience. I’ll be praying for you!

Naiomi
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Hi Molly, Thanks so much for sharing your story. It is very similar to mine. I turned 30 without having ever been asked out, and I felt like such a loser and dreaded anyone asking me about it, it seemed so embarrassing. It is so awesome that you are sharing the truths God has been teaching you, as there are so many lies out there about singleness that can really drag you down. People in the church can also be really “helpful” and give you lots of well-meaning advise that seems to reinforce the message that you are single because… Read more »
Molly
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Thank you so much for sharing, Naiomi! Your story is so wonderful, and I’m totally in agreement with what you said. Blessings!

Teresa
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I don’t know their dating histories, but I had a priest and a professor who were still single at 36 and 50, respectively (he was the older one, she was the younger one), but found each other after reconciling to singleness and are now married very happily with their gorgeous 6-year-old (adopted) daughter! There is definitely possibility for change even after you’ve given up or think you’re “too old”.

Ross
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Nice share Molly. I can just imagine how challenging it must be to be upbeat about ” not dating” when many around are actually dating. Are you against asking someone out though?

Molly
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Thanks for the comment, Ross! I’m not necessarily against asking someone out, but I guess I would prefer to be asked/the opportunity has never really presented itself. But it’s something to ponder!

Teresa
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There’s also something to be said for online dating. It’s weird at first, and has definite downsides, but you also get to know people who are expressly looking for a relationship as well, and it can expose you to people you wouldn’t have met otherwise.

R
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Molly, I’ve been raised in a christian home and love and serve Christ, but at 25 years old At times I had more or less convinced myself that I must be one of very few. Like you I’ve often felt embarrassed over this and had often thought that God maybe had forgotten about my desire to be a wife and be in a godly marriage. In all these years of waiting so far I have never heard anyone tell of their experience. So I want to thank you. I can agree with every point you’ve made. This time has helped… Read more »
Molly
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Thanks for sharing your story with me, R. It was hard to write this post because I was afraid I was alone and that no one would understand where I was coming from, but it turns out I’m not alone and neither are you! I know 2014 will hold great things for both of us because God truly does know best. Hugs!

Teresa
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For context, I’m 22, and have dated four different guys since the age of 15, so I suppose it seems like I haven’t had too many issues with getting asked out/having guys say yes when I aske them out. And yet, I’ve had at least two guys turn me down when I asked them out (I’m all for equal-opportunity here), and have had at least a dozen non-replies to my online dating forays. My last relationship fell apart because his heart was committed elsewhere still (he didn’t tell me this, despite the fact that the relationship had ended in the… Read more »
Abbie
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I love that saying that you mentioned at the end! I am figuring that out myself and it has recently become my goal. My focus has been in the wrong place all along. Thanks for your comment, it was very encouraging 🙂

Teresa
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Oh also, I HIGHLY recommend reading “Singles at the Crossroads” by Albert Hsu. It’s got a great perspective on what it means to be called to singlehood, either for a brief time or a lifetime. I found great comfort in it.

Connor
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Although I’m a guy and do the asking out part myself, I can honestly say I’ve never had a girlfriend or even a “successful” date (one that didn’t end with one of the parties involved leaving halfway through or something like that). I’m 20 right now (about to hit 21), and I honestly thought that by now I’d at least be closer to some form of dating relationship, but my luck has not held up. I’m completely terrified of being single and 30 – or, worse, single and 40 – but I can’t help but think it’s going to happen.… Read more »
Kathryn
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I’m 38 and I’ve never dated.

I’m not married I also can’t have kids
I feel like an inadequate loser in life !!!

I was told by some person God called me to be single and others told me Jesus is my bf and husband . No he’s not !

Kathryn
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What I’m having a very hard time With is when other people say ” God handpicked their spouse ” well that makes me feel very slighted by God There has been no joy at all for me in being single . I’m tired of feeling forced by others to tell those who think that singleness is a gift that I feel the same way well I don’t nor do I ever have to I feel left out. !!! Very very very left out and have felt this way since 1987 !!!! I’m also fed up With this being content with… Read more »
Abbie
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Wow, I feel like I was just faced with my own inner feelings. I just turned 26 a month ago. I’m pretty much in the same boat and it is incredibly hard. In fact, it gets harder the older I get. I used to be ok with it. However, I can’t help but question what is wrong with me. I recently managed to date a guy for the first time ever for about a month and a half and most of the time it was rocky emotionally for me. It was rather difficult since he lives out of town for… Read more »
Kathryn
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I’m not at all sorry to say this but it’s not fair of God at all to provide some with spouses but not all !

Shell T
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Hello Molly! I enjoyed your blog! I can say it gave me an uplift! : ) I’m pretty much the same…never had a boyfriend, not been asked out on an “actual” date… the same questions about myself you had..only difference is…I’m 44 & virgin. Also love God immensely! Begin the age that I am it can get quite difficult at times….but I know God is writing the best love for me. I have learned to live my life to to fullest! I have traveled the world. I recent came back from vacation about 3 weeks in the UK! It was… Read more »
Amber
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Wow… I thought I was such a social freak. I thought I was the only 20 yr old girl who’s never been asked out. To be honest there have been a few times when I was told that someone was “checking me out” and I was completely oblivious. The thing is, I have a constant longing to find a significant other but I want to find one who will lead me and strives to be closer to God. I’ve been told that I am much too picky and to cool it. I’ve also been told by A LOT of people… Read more »
D. Rhedd
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Hi Molly, Great post! I haven’t dated since 2001, but I’m a single mom who left a very bad marriage, and I have a kid to look out for. Because of the healing I needed from that marriage, I prayed, “Lord, keep all the wrong men away from me and put a seal upon my heart for the one You have for me if remarriage is Your will for my life.” Been dateless ever since. LOL! I take my walk with the Lord very seriously (understanding I am relying on His daily abundant mercy and grace in my life of… Read more »
Molly
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Oh wow, D. Your message brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for those words – they were definitely given to you by God to speak to my heart. It’s been a few months since I wrote this post and nothing has changed relationship-wise, so I’m continuing to trust and lean on Him, though it’s still not automatic or easy at times. Thank you for your prayers and kind, sweet words.

Becca
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Molly, thank you for writing this. I’m also in the same boat — I’m 26, and I’ve never been asked out. I’ve dated a couple of times, but typically I do the asking, or I get a killer line like “hey, uhhhhh… let’s hang out sometime, maybe.” When most of my friends have been dating or married for years now and I’m the only one who has stayed single, it’s encouraging to know that I’m not the only one.

Molly
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You are certainly not alone, Becca! Thanks for your message. And good things come to those of us who wait! 🙂

Lacey
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Like others who commented, this was SO ENCOURAGING for me!! I am well into my 24th year of life and I too have never been asked out. All around me my friends and basically every person I meet has someone special in their lives or, if they are single, have still been on multiple dates. I have struggled with this a lot, questioning what is wrong with me that guys don’t like me? I am trying out online dating for the first time and I have had zero date proposals on their as well — further confirmation to me that… Read more »
Molly
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Thanks for commenting, Lacey! And you certainly are NOT alone.

Miriam
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Thank you so much for writing this. I’m 18 – still young, maybe – but I’ve never had a boyfriend, never been asked out, never had a first kiss. It didn’t used to bug me in high school, but now that I’m in uni, it seems like everyone is in a relationship! I think you’ve helped a lot of young females, like myself, feel more confortable with themselves. Again, thank you for this and God bless x

Cora
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Thank you for this! 🙂

Mike
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Molly, great piece. None of what you think defines you actually does. Christ in you, the hope of glory, is your true identity. It doesn’t matter a hill of beans that you’re this, that or the other thing in the natural. You’re not abnormal and there is nothing wrong with you. We want answers, so we go looking for a cause to address and/or someone to blame, including ourselves, but there is a vacuum behind that that scares us more. It’s a liminal space in which we feel as though we have nothing to cling to for grounding – making… Read more »
Beth
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Good on you, Mike

Colette
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Thank you for this awesome post, Molly. I most certainly can relate to what you wrote. It has been a very long time since I have been asked out on a date. Being single has its good points, but there are days I do not enjoy it very much. Loneliness bites and some days are harder than others. Some times, I feel that life has been passing me by and I often ask the question: “Why does it seem that God is always giving what I desire to someone else?” Being content with being single is not always an easy… Read more »
Colette
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Great article Molly. I most certainly can relate. Being single is not always easy. Some days are harder than others and it is on those days when the loneliness seems to bite. I have wondered why it seems that God is always giving what I desire (a spouse) to someone else.

lindseyjanae
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I just turned 29, yes 29, and haven’t been asked out on a date. I’ve had two guys in the past tell me that they liked me, but I wasn’t attracted to either of them, and later I found out why I wasn’t receiving a good vibe from them. The first was asking out every girl on his facebook list until one of them said yes (true story!). The other was was a guy who I grew up knowing in my town, but we were total opposites, in every way. He was also a midget…and also desperate. Oddly enough, both… Read more »
Kyle
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It’s easy to not worry as much when you’re in your mid-20s and single. When you’re 10 years older and no woman has ever accepted the offer of date, after roughly 20 years of trying, it is soul crushing. And it isn’t just that women have said no; I could accept that a lot easier. It is the fact that they have rejected me with anything from a cheap, lame, lie to something as horrible as “do the world a favor and kill yourself.” What is even worse, the vast majority were women I met in church. I’ve been told… Read more »
Cath
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I had seriously been praying for a boyfriend/future husband since the age of 25. I am now 33, but I met my current boyfriend(now fiancé) at the age of 32. It was basically 7 years of prayer but I stayed consistent praying to God for this petition. My prayer request was VERY specific, almost too specific. I had this very specific request since the age of 25! I prayed to God that I would NOT get asked out by the WRONG man and if a wrong man did ask me out, I asked Jesus that he would Not allow me… Read more »
Uche
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My name is UCHE from Nigeria. I am going to be 36 by Jan 2015. Unfortunately have this genetic growth all over my skin. Iam not ugly as far as am concerned. It has very hurtful not to be asked out by anyman up till this moment. Some of my younger ones far younger than I am are all married evev d much younger ones are dating. I don’t know what reason for this happening to me. I know that even with these growths on my skin God can still give me someone who will love me the way I… Read more »
Chris
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This sounds wonderful at the age of 20……I however am 50 and have never been asked on a date. I hate to burst some bubbles, but love may never be around the corner and you may end up lively a very lonely life right up until you die. Just wanted to warn some of you not to keep looking for the Hollywood happy ending. Many, many times it’s just as I described. Yes, the truth can hurt.

Aisha
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Ditto Chris. I just saw this and posted. I’m 56 and have basically given up the hope of ever meeting a man to share my life with. Life was good being alone until about 45, then the realization that you will never have a partner – someone in life who really cares about you and vice versa – ever in your life. You will forever be alone.

Megan
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I am 41 and have never been asked out. I keep it a secret. In the back of my mind I can’t help but wonder if something is wrong with me. I usually conclude it is because I am fat. But I have become ok with it. I have gotten to go to Kenya twice so far. I can be there for my niece and nephew because they are going through some tough stuff. I can volunteer. Nothing is holding me back. Though I find it embarrassing, I am happy where I am for the most part.

Brynne Muir
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Here’s the thing: I don’t want to get married, don’t want children, don’t want to date. However, the fact that no man has ever so much looked my way rather necessitates this conviction that I have. It does absolutely nothing for my self-confidence, in spite of my decision, to think that, at 30, I have never been approached by the opposite gender. EVER! What’s wrong with me? Am I that unattractive/uninteresting/unapproachable/revolting? To be perfectly honest, while I am very steadfast in conviction about staying single, I also struggle quite a lot with feelings of bitterness, loneliness, and insecurity. It’s one… Read more »
Nikki
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hello! Well I’m still a teenager but… that is a statement that I tell people who ask me why I’ve never been in a relationship. At 15 I told my friends that I think there is this possibility that I will never get married. And I should prepare myself for that kind of future. At 19 it feels like… wow…so this could really be my reality. Unlike you, I do dream of marrying and having a family…. but uhmmm…. I am also aware that not everyone gets to have that. And that is fine. I trust God’s plan. I do… Read more »
Christine
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Wow. Thank you for this. I have been scouring the web for a while just trying to find someone who’s in the same boat of “20-something, never dated” that I’m in. I was really thankful to come across your post! I’m 24, never been asked out, and even though I’ve been more or less okay with it, now I’m about to graduate grad school and start living in “the real world”…and I’m suddenly realizing how scared I am to do that on my own (especially since I didn’t think I would still be alone at this point). I’m glad to… Read more »
Janice
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Thank you for this. I really needed this right now. I am 22, I will be 23 in August, and I have never been on a date (that the boy considered a date as well) either. I have been out several times with two different guys who both eventually made it very clear to me that we were only going out as friends and nothing more (to be fair to me though in both cases the guy asked me first and always paid so it’s not all that far fetched for a girl to assume it’s a date). I’ve never… Read more »
Aisha
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Lovely but try being 56 and only being asked out on 2-3 dates my entire life. I’m sure most people think I’m gay. I’m told I’m fun, good-looking, smart by married men and gay men. Yet, the last time I was asked out on a date was when I was 40, 16 years ago. I was loving life and optimistic through age 45, until I realized I missed out on building a life with a partner, having children, and having someone to grow old with. Now, my focus is on building retirement since I will be all alone with no… Read more »
Aisha
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An addendum to my post. I am a TRUE BELIEVER IN GOD. He has been there for me when I got laid off, I found a job right away. And in little ways too. Suffice to say sometimes when I think I’ve done something foolish, God makes it right for me so I not only learn and grow from the experience but everything works out in the end. It is just in love that he has forsaken me.

Kimberley
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Thanks for sharing this. It was something that I really needed to hear today. I’m 21 and have never been asked out and a lot of my friends are starting to get married and have kids. It’s something I want so much so I understand the struggle it can be. Thanks for the reminder of God’s plans being better than my own.

Isabela
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Jst read this today and am encouraged, am 20 never been in a relationship while all my friends are dating and it has made me develop so much pain, questions and evn ask God why some times, thnks for sharing

Nikki
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Hi! I’m 19 and well… same story. Never been asked out. Never had any boy tell me he likes me or had a crush on me. Although I have never attempted to ask anyone out or told any guy I liked them, I have had my fair share of getting rejected. There was this guy who wanted to meet my friend so he asked one of our other friend if she could introduce him, and that’s totally fine but they way he asked her was and I quote -“can i meet your friend? Oh the one on this side and… Read more »
Niki
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hello! Well I’m still a teenager but… that is a statement that I tell people who ask me why I’ve never been in a relationship. At 15 I told my friends that I think there is this possibility that I will never get married. And I should prepare myself for that kind of future. At 19 it feels like… wow…so this could really be my reality. Unlike you, I do dream of marrying and having a family…. but uhmmm…. I am also aware that not everyone gets to have that. And that is fine. I trust God’s plan. I do… Read more »
Kristina
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Such an encouraging post! “Yes, I am 22 never been on a date, never had a boyfriend, never been kissed” Usually this is what I say to people when ask. My friends think I’m crazy, family wants me to be married and others can’t believe this. I learned throughout the years to be content in WHATEVER state I’m in, no it hasn’t been easy and quite frankly there had been times I cried myself to sleep because I desire to be married and to meet “the one”. I am not ashamed of my current situation, nor will people make me… Read more »
mcat
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I wish I could go on vacation. I actually feel like my married friends have money to do that and I don’t…:'( I’ve been single my whole life. I’m 22 gona be 23. Being single for me is hard cause yeah I don’t have a husband to ask for permission but I still have this thing called parents. Also I don’t find the concept of dating Jesus as weird, in fact its the only thing that helps me feel better at this point.

Molly
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This post is AWESOME (and I know I’m a little late in finding it)! Really hits the nail right on the head with a lot that I’v been struggling with lately. I’m 20, have never been asked out, kissed, hugged, held hands with, etc. It’s something that I think about all of the time and, honestly, really bothers me. I pray for acceptance a lot, so my lack of a relationship or even any interest from a guy whom I like, doesn’t bother me. I also pray for a guy to like me like I like him. I know this… Read more »
Sarah
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Hey I’m 26 turning 27 this year. I’m single and would like to find someone special (not perfect) but special like a bestfriend.
It’s hard being single You spend most of your time alone and you sometimes start to wonder if you’ll ever find your best mate.
I don’t really care about looks as long as you’re tall (because I’m short/petite), honest, genuine, kind and fun/ free to be around then I’m cool with that.

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