I get a lot of questions concerning the topic of long-distance dating relationships. Are they worth it? Do they work? Or am I just setting myself up for heart-break?
I’ve noticed that people tend to have a minor panic attack when they entertain the idea of a long distance relationship.
It’s as though “long distance” is code for “Dating someone who lives far away and is actually living a double life while I am over here clueless”.
Fears of cheating, dishonesty, and stress begin to creep into the picture. Insecurities, worries, and doubts.
While I’ve definitely heard of some unfortunate stories and scenarios within the dating world of distance, I can say with confidence that long distance dating comes with it’s own set of challenges…but it also comes with it’s own list of rewards. If approached in a healthy way, long distance relationships can bring benefits that typical relationships may not be able to bring.
My husband and I were in a long-distance relationship from the moment we met until the moment we got married. We never lived in the same state until after our honeymoon, when we packed up our things and headed to our new home. Our relationship was filled with phone-calls, expensive flights, and a lot of sacrifices. (You can read the details of our story in my book, True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life).
While it’s not the easiest route (nor the least expensive), there were so many benefits that came with growing our long distance relationship that we still see evidenced within the context of our marriage.
Here are three seriously great benefits to a long distance relationship:
Debra Fileta is a Professional Counselor, speaker, and author of the book True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life, and 21 Days to Jump Start Your Love Life, where she writes candidly about dating, relationships, and how to find true love. You may also recognize her voice from her 150+ articles at Relevant Magazine or Crosswalk.com! She’s also the creator of this True Love Dates Blog! Connect with her on Facebook or Twitter!