Praying For Your Love Life

In Advice and Encouragement, Relationships, Single by Debra Fileta13 Comments

Long before I met my husband, I prayed for him.

Long before I knew his name or had any idea of his features, I prayed.

Long before I knew if I would marry and have a family – or if God would call me elsewhere, I still prayed for my love-life.

You see, during the time in my life when I was single as single could be, I was filled with the urgency to pray for a person I had never yet met. At times, the thought of marriage seemed so far away that I found I wasn’t even praying for a “person”, but simply, a concept.

God had called me to pray for my love-life, and I believe He’s calling you to do the same.

This past week I asked Singles at my Facebook page to tell me whether or not they pray for their love life on a regular basis and what keeps them from doing so. Many of them see praying for love as an important part of their life. But for so many others, it’s a practice they’ve never cultivated.

Many have lost hope. Some simply forget. A few wonder if God even cares about their love life.

But most simply don’t know what to pray. 

As we look at Scripture, we see that relationships are SO incredibly close to God’s heart. They’re such an integral part of the human life and the bible clearly affirms that finding a good spouse is a valuable treasure. 

But why then, do we often spend so much more time worrying about our relationship status than we do praying over it? The truth is, there is no power or force on this earth that is greater or more effective than that of prayer.

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God (Philippians 4:6).

My time of prayer filled my heart with hope. But more than anything else, it drew me closer to Jesus. It allowed the Lord to transform my heart, my thoughts, and my desires, bringing them into alignment with His good plan for me. And not only did it prepare and bless me, but it blessed the man I would one day marry. It moved our hearts in supernatural ways, and I truly believe it moved us toward each other.

In less than two weeks, I’m going to be speaking about the power of Praying For Your Love Life at Saddleback Church in Lake Forest, CA! I’m teaching about the importance of prayer, as well as sharing the SPECIFIC and DELIBERATE ways you need to be praying about your love-life.

If you’re single and living in the Southern California area, I encourage you to register for this event. It will be a time of teaching and encouragement, as well as a chance to connect with other local singles.

If you don’t live in the Southern California area but want to learn more about this topic, I challenge you to consider going through my 21 Days to Pray For Your Love Life e-course and commit the next 21 days to prayer. My hope is that it would be a time of hope, encouragement, and transformation for you as well.

Because though it might start with a Saturday morning seminar, or a 21 day program….my desire is that this eventually becomes a way of life. 

Because prayer has the power to change everything.

Join us for the Singles Event at Saddleback Church by clicking below (register before August 1 for early bird registration price!): 


Or sign up for the 21 Days to Pray For Your Love Life e-course by clicking below: 

Debra Fileta is a Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life, where she writes candidly about dating, relationships, and how to find true love. Her newest book, Choosing Marriage, is set to be released in the Summer of 2018! You may also recognize her voice from her 200+ articles at Relevant Magazine,, and all over the web! She’s the creator of this True Love Dates Blog, reaching over 4 million people with the message that healthy people make healthy relationships!  Connect with her on Facebook or Twitter or book a session with her today!

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While I agree with idea of praying for one’s love life, I don’t agree with a common interpretation, i.e., “You must pray for your future spouse.” Praying for more trust in relationships develops intimacy with God. Praying for groups of people with specific needs (e.g., those who have never heard the Gospel, victims of the Pulse Shooting, imprisoned missionaries, etc.) gives prayers a shape. Praying for a husband I haven’t met that I’m not certain exists – who, due to lack of information, seems more like a black hole in my imagination than a person – does not (personally) bring… Read more »

Some people will remain single those who have no sexual desires if you have a desire to marry than you’re able to marry. Bible says if you burn with passion then marry but remember it is our responsibility to choose a good spouse God gave us free will and that free will will always be there

Becky Griffith
So true Debra. I pray for my future love life in many ways. I pray that God would change me and reveal to me past hurts, problem areas, and to change me into a better person so that I can be the best I can be. At times when I meet some one new….Ipray for them too. I pray that God would keep him focused, pure, and for God to change in them anything that may need changing. I always ask the Lord for guidance and to help me to make wise choices when dating. There are so many ways… Read more »
Shay Johnson

I find that, i prepare, pretend and allot more these days, think of my future love, and i say i love you and i imagine him saying me too. That he’s romantic, handsome and good, godly man. Even though i’m single. So i believe i am doing so, as well. But praying for him, is what i need to do more. Thanks Debra. God bless!


hi debra, your post has really inspired me but how can someone like me who lives in Nigeria participate in this great event.?

I love this post! I also believe that it’s very important to pray for my future husband as well. After reading your book a few years ago I found another book called “Praying For Your Future Husband” preparing your heart for his, by Robin Jones Gunn & Tricia Goyer. I read it and decided that is exactly what I was gonna start doing for him even now as I don’t even know who he is. At the end of the book it gives specific scriptures & a prayer for him for every week of the year. You pray the same… Read more »
J. B.

Thank you Debra for sharing, I agree that praying for one’s future spouse is a deeply intimate place of taking our desires before Jesus and investing in our future spouse’s live. Ah, that we would all go before our Heavenly Father and talk with Him and intercede with Him.

Gidado Omolola

i cant wait for this. it just came at the nick of time where i need prayers in all facets of my life.

Thank you