How to Deal with Insecurities in a Relationship

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Insecurity is the seed of discontent. 

It’s like a poison that seeps into our hearts and minds,  filling us with confusion and doubt and fooling us into believing that we have no control.  I think it’s a poison that we have all dealt with at some point, because it attacks in so many areas of our lives- relationships included.

There are two components to insecurity within a relationship: Yourself and Your Significant Other.

In this article, I will tackle both of those important components. I’ll explain how to recognize aspects in yourself that may contributing to your insecurity, and then, how to recognize characteristics in your significant other that may also be contributing to your feelings of insecurity.

Let’s start with the first thing you need to know about…

Debra Fileta is a Professional Counselor, speaker, and author of the book True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life, and 21 Days to Jump Start Your Love Life, where she writes candidly about dating, relationships, and how to find true love. You may also recognize her voice from her 150+ articles at Relevant Magazine or! She’s also the creator of this True Love Dates Blog!  Connect with her on Facebook or Twitter

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I just want to say, as a 28-year-old male, I find your godly, womanly perspective so encouraging and refreshing. I went through an extremely difficult situation in the last 2 years and my counselor was encouraging the same type of work you suggest and all I can say is wow, the Holy Spirit is guiding yours and his ministry. Thank you for your sharing of your experience, work, and knowledge. God bless.



I just feel like crying. This message is God-sent. I have been struggling with insecurities for a long while and this captures my exact state. I pray I’ll find the strength to overcome, as this article has encouraged me. Thank you for submitting your will to God. You are blessed.
May the Lord continue to bless you.


I am a born again 44 year old male. I needed to read this article. I’m struggling in this area of my life. Due to my insecurities I have not been successful in a relationship. I need to renew the spirit of my mind.
Because of fear, I try to control relationships and I end up sabotaging them. Satan knows my weaknesses and that’s where he attacks me; however, he who’s in me is greater than he who’s in the world.


Hi Debra,
Please help!! I paid the $0.99 to read this article, and the page wouldn’t load. Now it’s asking me to pay again!! I really need to read this article.