10 Things You Need to Talk About BEFORE You Get Married

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When it comes to wedding planning, there is a tendency to focus on the minor details while neglecting the main point; planning the wedding, while neglecting to plan the marriage.

The epidemic of extravagant weddings is seeping into our culture in an unmistakable way. Turn on the TV at any given time and you will find a plethora of shows centered on the concept of achieving the so-called perfect wedding.

The wedding planning process includes finding the perfect dress, landing the perfect reception hall, making sure you’ve got the right flowers, food, cake, music, wedding party, DJ, photographer, centerpieces, invitations, ceremony, rings, shoes and more.  While there is no doubt that there is value in celebrating such a sacred day, is it possible that in our celebration- sometimes we miss the focus? Is it possible that we over prepare for the wedding, yet under prepare for the marriage?

Far beyond planning the particulars of a wedding day, the time of engagement is a really sacred time. More than simply planning the details of a wedding, it’s a chance to get to the bottom of who you are and reflect on the person you want to become. It’s an opportunity to connect with and continue getting to know the heart of the precious partner God has placed in your life.

For my husband and I, our engagement was a rich time of really digging deep and learning everything we could know about the person we would soon vow to commit the rest of our lives to. It was a time of laughter, a time of tears, and a time of prayer. We read books, met with mentor couples, and invested in pre-marital counseling along the way, knowing that THIS was our one chance to iron out the details, and prepare our hearts for a lifetime.

If you are engaged or planning on getting there in the near future, realize that this is the time to begin working, preparing and planning for the marriage you hope to build.  

As you reflect on some of the most important aspects of planning a marriage, here are some must-have conversations before you walk down the aisle:

Debra Fileta is a Professional Counselor, speaker, and author of the book True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life, where she writes candidly about dating, relationships, and how to find true love. You may also recognize her voice from her 150+ articles at Relevant Magazine or Crosswalk.com! She’s also the creator of this True Love Dates Blog!  Connect with her on Facebook or Twitter